Shannon asked me a few weeks back “How much does Tommy want to be involved in the planning process?” I had to think about it for a second. I replied, “On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being the point where all he has to do is show up (preferably showered and shaved) and 10 being a total groomzilla, he’s at about a 6.” It’s a nice place for him to be, when I think about it. He wants to be involved, he has ideas and opinions, but he really doesn’t care about what color napkins we use. Or, let’s be honest, if we have napkins at all!
So I asked this man who I plan on marrying what is the most important to him when it comes to THE day. First up – booze. (Atta boy.) When it comes down to it, your wedding is probably the biggest party you’ll ever throw, so of course you want the drinks to be plentiful and of high quality. We are going to select a venue where we can bring in our own bar, which will help us cut costs and enable us to customize the selections.
Second on his list, food – a natural choice after drinks and another item in the budget that – to us –
is worth the splurge. Also, Tom has a lot of family who will likely travel to attend, and I know that it’s important for him to make sure that everyone has a wonderful time. The best way to guarantee this – feed your guests. Feed them well, feed them often and keep their cups full.
Finally, the third most important thing to my groom is transportation. Always careful, he wants to ensure that everyone is safe on their way home after the great time we show them! To that end, another important factor in selection our venue is figuring out if there is a nearby hotel (with good rates!) or if we can fit it into our budget to provide round trip transportation. A bus (the yellow variety packed with coolers and snacks!), a trolley, hotel shuttles – we aren’t quite sure yet, but it is definitely something that is high on the priority list.
And there you have it, the priorities of my fiancé, as they stand today, anyway. They could change! What about your groom? Is he involved in the process? Have you asked him what is most important? His answers may surprise you! And even if they are different from your priorities, you will be on the same page as you move forward with planning!